Parenting ADHD & Other Emotionally Complex Kids || Talking to Teachers || ADHD, SPD, Autism, HSP

As parents of differently wired kids, it can sometimes be difficult to navigate discussions about our child’s unique personality and behavioral quirks with teachers and coaches. This week, Danielle and I get into the nitty gritty of these parent-teacher and/or parent/coach conversations.

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  1. This was awesome!! I really have struggled in the past about whether I should “out” my son’s label right away. So I’ve done it both ways and through trial and error, I have found (for us), it’s always best to let the caregiver know.

  2. I’ve done all this for my girl with her gymnastics coach. 8 months later they are still skipping her turns and putting her in timeout when she’s not ready for a turn or didn’t fully hear/understand the direction. It doesn’t happen all the time but every now and then. My daughter loves her team and very attached to her coach and teammate and it would crush her if I pulled her out. At the same time I’ve advocating soooo much that I feel they are singling her out now and in he last week have made her cry twice. I’m now very upset and frustrated and I can’t get them to get it. Very hard tricky situation. I’ve continue to be open with my daughter. She knows and hears me advocate at this point and that I don’t agree with how they do everything. She knows she doesn’t have to stay. She doesn’t want to leave what so ever. Ugh! I feel like sending this video to her coach because at this point after 10 talks I don’t sound as sweet as you. Lol

  3. Thanks for this. My 9th grade daughter is going from homeschool to public high school, and she has profound learning challenges (autism) I will definitely be putting your advice to good use!

  4. This topic has been one of the most difficult things for me. I actually stopped going to church because of this very thing. My emotionally complex child had different Sunday School teachers each week, which meant that every week I had to approach a different teacher and ask them to text me if he started to become physical (kicking chairs and such) because that was an indicator that he might have a major meltdown. I tried to do it with humor and tact, but I never knew what response I was going to get. Some understood, others acted like I was being dramatic or maybe even lying. We're trying out Cub Scouts this year, where my husband will always be with him at meetings and can remind my little one to exercise some self-control when he feels challenged. We're hoping that this will help him to develop some good habits in those class-type situations. Fingers crossed. 😉

  5. I'm so grateful for you and your channel. Thank you! We just took our 10-year-old son out of public school during his 2nd week as things got progressively worse. So, I'm new to homeschooling and drowning in information. He has impulsive type ADHD and anxiety. It seems like your children really love learning, but do you have suggestions for a child who hates learning and any kind of learning structure? He's resisting so much and perhaps being his mother and his teacher just isn't best for us? We're at a very low point.

  6. Thank you so much for these suggestions. I am always concerned as to whether I should share my daughter's ADHD and anxiety with new leaders in her activities. I almost feel like I'm setting her up for different treatment from the beginning. But I also know that people won't understand her meltdowns or hyperactivity. This helps a lot!

  7. My 5 year old son is 2e. It's challenging to navigate the special needs maze. I agree that adults will criticize more than children. I've already heard adults make statements like, "Oh, his teacher is going to have such a ball keeping him seated in school," and "That child needs to grow up, he is have a meltdown like a 2 year old." Unfortunately, this can come from both strangers and relatives. Great video!


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